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Question by : What do you think of abortion?
Do you think it is wrong and why or why not? Firstly if you think about it in a way, it is murder. The reason I think this is, is because an abortion can still be carried out late into the pregnancy. Now many of you probably think that it isn’t alive, so whats the problem. Well lets take a fetus, and compare it to any other baby……. is the heart beating? does it have a brain? How can you say it isn’t alive? What about premature babies, are they just a bunch of cells? Cells are living by the way. A baby is alive from the first second it’s heart starts beating. Thats why it can suck it’s thumb and kick and move and think while it’s still in the womb. So if you want to tell me that “it isn’t living”, whats your proof? I read somewhere that once, a docter performed an abortion late in a pregnancy and he found the baby sucking it’s thumb. He killed the baby anyway. Was that baby “a bunch of cells” or “not living”. Please tell me what you think.

In the aspect of a woman getting raped and becoming pregnant, she could still go through with the pregnancy and give the baby up for adoption. Many amazing and great people have been adopted in this way. And it is better than killing them before they even have a chance at life

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Answer by Natasha
I am against it.

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Question by mommy2angelbaby: big babies versus small babies?
My daughter was born 1 1/2 months premature weighing 4 lbs and was 17 inches long. She has always been petite but her pediatrician says she is growing fine and is extremely healthy. She is now 6 months old and weighs 12 lbs and is 26 inches tall. This puts her at the 35th percentile for height and less than 3rd percentile for weight, but her doctor is not concerned since she was born premature and she is consistent with her growth. All my friends brag that their babies are big and healthy and are in the 90th percentile range for height and weight. To me their babies seem so big and even overweight. They also make comments such as “why don’t you feed that baby” or “are you starving her?” I do feed her and she has a good appetite. I feed her age appropriate healthy foods. One of my friends feeds her 7 month old Dr. Pepper in his bottle and gives him ice cream! She jokes that if I did this then my baby would put on some weight. I only want what is best for my little girl and want her to be healthy. Am I doing something wrong?

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Answer by Pippin
You aren’t doing anything wrong. If your friends make rude comments, say “My doctor agrees that Janie is doing great.” If they continue to be rude — find other people to hang out with.

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Question by gimmenamenow: Anyone else who lost their first having this problem?
Here I am, 30 weeks along in my second pregnancy, finally starting to show hard, about at the same point I was eight years ago when I went into premature labor and lost my first son (renal agenesis, but that’s beside the point.)

Point is… the attention from people is great, “Oh, how far along are you?” “You look wonderful!” “Do you know if it’s a boy or girl yet?” (Which I don’t know and don’t care, this one has two kidneys and a bladder, thank you very much, and my typical answer to “What are you having?” is “A baby.”) All the typical stuff is fine and dandy and great, but I’m always at a loss at “Is this your first?” Part of me wants to say “No” and go into what happened, but then again, it’s one thing in this semi-anonymous situation of online discussion, a complete other in real life… these people don’t need to know, and I don’t necessarily want to completely overlook my first, but I don’t want people’s pity over it either… I started saying yes, it’s my first, but still…
Anyway, anyone else dealing with the same problem? And if so, how are you handling it?

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Answer by RE
I had to deal with this 28 years ago. My first was kidnapped at 17 months old. When I was pregnant with my second and people would ask me if this was my first, I didn’t know what to say, either.

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Potential Health Issues in Premature Babies

Because a premature baby is early he/she is more prone to health problems.  These tiny premature babies often have underdeveloped lungs as well as other issues and as a result have higher rates of disabilities such as cerebral palsy.

Because of the various health concerns a premature baby is given medical assistance immediately after delivery. Depending on how prematurely a baby arrives he/she is likely to be transferred to the neonatal intensive care unit (NICU), for assessment to determine his/her medical needs.

Below are some of the more common conditions that occur in premature babies:

Respiratory Distress Syndrome
a breathing disorder related to the baby’s immature lungs.  Because a premature baby’s lungs frequently lack surfactant, a liquid substance that allows the lungs to remain expanded.  Artificial surfactants are often used to treat these tiny babies in conjunction with a ventilator to improve baby’s breathing and to help maintain sufficient oxygen levels in the blood.

Bronchopulmonary Dysplasia
is the medical term used to describe babies who require oxygen over a longer period of time.  The severity of this condition varies and as baby’s lungs mature they tend to outgrow the condition.

Apnoea
is the medical term given when the regular breathing rhythm is interrupted for more than fifteen seconds.  The condition is often is associated with a reduced heart rate, known medically as bradycardia. A pulse oximeter is used to measure oxygen saturation a drop in oxygen is known as de-saturation. The majority of babies outgrow the condition by the time they go home.

Retinopathy of prematurity (ROP)
previously known as retrolental fibroplasia (RLF), is an eye disease that affects premature babies in which the retina is not fully developed. The majority of cases resolve without the need for treatment, although serious cases may require surgery. Both oxygen toxicity and relative hypoxia can contribute to the development of ROP.

Jaundice
is the result ofabuild in the baby’s blood of achemical called Bilirubin. As a result of this build up the baby’s skin takes on a yellow tinge. Treating the condition involves placing the undressed baby under special lights whilst covering baby’s eyes to protect them from damage.

A Mother?s Guide to Buying Premature Baby Clothes

A mother always plays a significant role in rearing a child.  From conception to the time that a baby is brought into this world, she always has that special task to accomplish.  More responsibilities are placed upon her shoulders especially when a preemie comes in the family.  If you are one of these mothers, you should include premature baby clothes in your list.  Give high regard on how you should purchase the best one to suit your little angel.  Buying premature baby clothes successfully will depend upon how you play your role as a mother.

Acquiring premature baby clothes is more than just focusing on the clothes.  There are certain rules that are not actually focused on the clothing or the materials used to create one.  There are more responsibilities you should undertake as a mother.  Below, you will see what these statements mean.

How should a mom buy premature baby clothes?

As a mother, you know that the role of buying preemie clothes start from you.  Do not make the choice as difficult as you think it is.  In fact, the task is easier than you expect.  Below are some of the things you should include to make a successful buy:

Make your own diary of events.  A diary?  Why the need to do so?  Some of you may find this instruction confusing.  Do not disregard this tip because this is helpful.  A diary is important in order to track down the changes in your baby’s body.  It is also your licence to find out how your cuddly angel develops each day.  Buying premature baby clothes is not all about focusing on your baby’s body weight and size at birth, it is also about seeing ahead of what is happening at the present.  Simply put, what your baby’s body weight now may no longer be his body weight in the future.  Do not buy too much preemie clothes of one size. Ask…ask…and ask.  Enquiring about premature baby clothes makes the task easier.  Start by asking the experiences of parents of preemie babies ahead of you.  There is always one in your neighbourhood who have encountered such a scene in their lives.  Better ask about what they did to get a great buy.  In this regard, you should also focus on asking for help.  It is good to do things on your own but remember “two heads are better than one”.  It is not about what you want always.  Do not ever think that you will be a burden just because you asked help from others.  Try to go near your parents and tell them to get premature baby clothes for your baby.

Sharing the load with other members of the family – or the community – makes premature baby clothes shopping easier and more enjoyable.  You have to exhaust all efforts in order to get the right clothes that your baby will look good in.  As you want to enjoy the moment with your baby, do not spend too much time sitting down because you are overwhelmed by the premature baby clothes you see.  Be a mother who works your best at the same time never hesitate to ask for a helping hand.

Question by AntiSocial_Loser: Is it Possible??
Alright this morning in my [morning] class, a classmate of mine was pissed off becuase her niece had her fourth baby this morning [and shes only 25]
So then i tell her,
“oh but thats nice though that she had her baby, dont judger her just cuz shes young, its her decision”"
Then she tells me,[I will just continue the conversation from here]
“its not even that, she had the baby and didnt even know she was pregnant”
…….
me- ‘what how can she not notice, expecially if thats her 4th baby”
classmate-”she didnt know, shes a “druggie” besides she really fat”
….
me-”your lying!”
classmate- “no, im not, im serious ”
me-”is the baby premature”
classmate-”noooo he weighed 8plbs”

So from here she just kept telling the story, and i just listened to her in awe.
And i still think thats sort of impossible..Is that possible??? anyone….
seriously…
my thoery is that he niece just lied to her what do you all think?
Yea my classmate said her neice did go full term…
But i dont know the whole story completely but from what I heard it seems like she exagerrated…
But yea maybe he niece was not taking care of body properlly…
I still feel bad for the baby to be raised with a mother like this.

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Answer by mommatobe
Anything’s possible.

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Question by NotsoObliiiiiiii: completely furious at friend with sick problem..what to do?
I have been friends…well more aquaintances…with this girl I used to attend church with. We are both 19. Back when she was 14 she showed me an ultrasound claiming she was pregnant, but the name was conveniently cut off the top. I knew she lied, but I let it go. She claimed she miscarried at 20 weeks and only had “spotting”. I knew that was a lie. But I let it go. Now she has gone too far!!! She said she was pregnant, at first I didnt believe her. Then I saw her, months later, and her belly was huge! I only touched it briefly, and it was rock hard. So I offered to help throw her a shower, but my own family had a last minute crisis so I had to shift the responsibility over to someone else and I felt bad so i bought her tons of baby stuff. Luckily I hadnt given it to her yet! Her due date was February 23rd. A week before that she disconnected her phone and cut off contact from me, her parents, and everyone at church. I had never seen an ultrasound, neither had her parents, we just assumed because her tummy was big she was pregnatn and also she’s now married and we couldnt figure how she could fake it and her hubby not know it. Well I just heard from her mom, who says she suddenly showed up and claimed she “lost the baby” at 40 weeks but gave no details. Funny thing, she has no upcoming doctors appointments, and when I asked about funeral arrangements her mom said she’d heard nothing about it. If the baby died two weeks ago…and no funeral…huh…dont suppose she faked it? But, suddenly, some of the stuff she got at her baby shower has “dissapeared” and she cant find it. I think she has a major psychological problem and she needs help. But I’m angry because its bad enough to fake a miscarriage, but to fake a whole pregnancy? A whole baby? Now I wont swear on my life she faked it, but I’m pretty sure. She never called her mom at the hospital, and shes very close to her mom. She just shows up two weeks later, with a VERY flat stomach, and has “lost the baby”.

What should I do? She now wants attention and sympathy from me, and while I would NEVER confront her to her face on the off chance I’m wrong, I refuse to indulge her sick problem. Btw, that miscariage she had way back, was not the only one she claimed to have. Shes been trying to get pregnant on purpose since she was 13 and claims to have miscarried 5 times.

Advice please? My SIL is in the hospital in premature labor with my nephew and we’re not sure if he’s gonna be ok, so while I’m praying deeply for my nephew who is only at 32 weeks gestation and is having problems, my “friend” is pulling some sick shit and it is more than upsetting.

Best answer:

Answer by alliana devenna
You could pull and ultimatum and maybe tell her that you will be there to support her and be there to help her get over the baby, but only if she agrees to help herself and get some therapy (for the loss of the baby) or speaks to a pastor. This way, if she’s lying you can simply tell her no without being guilty, because you can’t fix her problems for her (it’s unfair for someone to ask you to), you could tell her that too, that you can’t possibly fix her problems, but you will help her help herself. This encourages her to help herself, whether she’s a liar or really miscarried. Try to keep her at arms length, and try not to let her get involved in the drama more than you can handle.

Otherwise you could confront her, which will probably turn out badly no matter which way you look at it (although sometimes that’s just what is needed).

Best of luck!

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Question by : Do You Think Abortion Is Wrong?
Do you think it is wrong and why or why not? Firstly if you think about it in a way, it is murder. The reason I think this is, is because an abortion can still be carried out late into the pregnancy. Now many of you probably think that it isn’t alive, so whats the problem. Well lets take a fetus, and compare it to any other baby……. is the heart beating? does it have a brain? How can you say it isn’t alive? What about premature babies, are they just a bunch of cells? Cells are living by the way. A baby is alive from the first second it’s heart starts beating. Thats why it can suck it’s thumb and kick and move and think while it’s still in the womb. So if you want to tell me that “it isn’t living”, whats your proof? I read somewhere that once, a docter performed an abortion late in a pregnancy and he found the baby sucking it’s thumb. He killed the baby anyway. Was that baby “a bunch of cells” or “not living”. Please tell me what you think.
In the aspect of a woman getting raped and becoming pregnant, she could still go through with the pregnancy and give the baby up for adoption. Many amazing and great people have been adopted in this way. And it is better than killing them before they even have a chance at life.

Best answer:

Answer by Zen禅Maiden :ジェダイ
no.

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Question by Foghorn Leghorn: Are these illegal aliens going to get Obamacare?
Illegal aliens threaten
U.S. medical system
Docs journal reports hospitals being closed,
Posted: March 13, 2005
1:00 am Eastern

© 2010 WorldNetDaily.com

Cristobal Silverio emigrated illegally from Mexico to Stockton, Calif., in 1997 to work as a fruit picker.

He brought with him his wife, Felipa, and three children, 19, 12 and 8 – all illegals. When Felipa gave birth to her fourth child, daughter Flor, the family had what is referred to as an “anchor baby” – an American citizen by birth who provided the entire Silverio clan a ticket to remain in the U.S. permanently.

But Flor was born premature, spent three months in the neonatal incubator and cost the San Joaquin Hospital more than $ 300,000. Meanwhile, oldest daughter Lourdes married an illegal alien gave birth to a daughter, too. Her name is Esmeralda. And Felipa had yet another child, Cristian.

The two Silverio anchor babies generate $ 1,000 per month in public welfare funding for the family. Flor gets $ 600 a month for asthma. Healthy Cristian gets $ 400. While the Silverios earned $ 18,000 last year picking fruit, they picked up another $ 12,000 for their two “anchor babies.”

While President Bush says the U.S. needs more “cheap labor” from south of the border to do jobs Americans aren’t willing to do, the case of the Silverios shows there are indeed uncalculated costs involved in the importation of such labor – public support and uninsured medical costs.

In fact, the increasing number of illegal aliens coming into the United States is forcing the closure of hospitals, spreading previously vanquished diseases and threatening to destroy America’s prized health-care system, says a report in the spring issue of the Journal of American Physicians and Surgeons.

“The influx of illegal aliens has serious hidden medical consequences,” writes Madeleine Pelner Cosman, author of the report. “We judge reality primarily by what we see. But what we do not see can be more dangerous, more expensive, and more deadly than what is seen.”

According to her study, 84 California hospitals are closing their doors as a direct result of the rising number of illegal aliens and their non-reimbursed tax on the system.

“Anchor babies,” the author writes, “born to illegal aliens instantly qualify as citizens for welfare benefits and have caused enormous rises in Medicaid costs and stipends under Supplemental Security Income and Disability Income.”

In addition, the report says, “many illegal aliens harbor fatal diseases that American medicine fought and vanquished long ago, such as drug-resistant tuberculosis, malaria, leprosy, plague, polio, dengue, and Chagas disease.”

While politicians often mention there are 43 million without health insurance in this country, the report estimates that at least 25 percent of those are illegal immigrants. The figure could be as high as 50 percent.

Not being insured does not mean they don’t get medical care.

Rest of story

http://www.wnd.com/news/article.asp?ARTICLE_ID=43275

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Answer by middleclassman
No, So jail the Americans that hire them and give them the motivation to come here. They come here because Americans hire them.

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Question by Allie: Facing a moral dilemma?
During my pregnancy, I had a falling out with my family. They were very unhappy about the baby and had no problem saying so. Not going into too much detail, I am married, we’re stable, responsible, self-sufficient, etc. Simply, everyone seemed happy for us except family, who said things such as, “You shouldn’t be having a baby, I hope the baby is born retarded, don’t bother sending pictures of the baby”–hated the bedding, hated the nursery color, we couldn’t do anything right…That list is continuous. The stress became too much and I couldn’t continue contact.

We lost the baby two weeks ago, due to premature labor. The hospital gave us pictures and mementos of the baby’s short life. We did not contact this family during labor, delivery, or after. Part of me is believing what we experienced is karma & I should contact this family. Part of me doesn’t want to deal with it because it was a toxic relationship & nothing would change (I KNOW nothing would change because this has been going on for years. I would be expected to apologize, then it would go back to how it was-guilt trips, feeling the need to have “permission” to do anything…). On top of that, I’m not sure how heartfelt the words were about sending baby pictures or wanting nothing to do with the baby.

I’m afraid they will eventually find out and I’ll be hearing, “You’re such a horrible person for not even telling us.” But I’m also afraid of contacting them now and hearing, “That’s what you get,” or, “Why are you even telling us?”

Either way, I’m almost positive there won’t be much sympathy, support, and I’ll hear about how I shouldn’t be complaining because their life is so much harder.

I do not want to continue a toxic relationship, but I also feel badly about not telling the family about the birth and death of this baby. I’m paranoid that my actions caused this, but I’m not sure if this is part of the grieving stage or not.

Has anyone ever been stuck like this?

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Answer by Witchy
“I do not want to continue a toxic relationship”

Then don’t. You admit that nothing good would come from establishing contact with them again. Let it go.

Yes, it’s part of the grieving process. If I were you, I would want for them to feel hurt as if what they said caused the loss of my baby. You know that’s not true, though.

I’ve had two miscarriages (but I wasn’t as far along as you were). Both times, we were deeply hurt. It took months for us to deal with it. That’s normal. I wanted to blame other people. I blamed myself. I wanted to put blame SOMEWHERE. Anywhere. Sometimes I lashed out at my husband.

But deep inside of me, I knew it wasn’t anyone’s “fault”. These things happen sometimes. Then I was simply left with a deep sense of loss and heartbreak. It’s hard to deal with but bringing those people back into your life will NOT make it better or easier. Just take it a day at a time. It will get better.

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