“best way to discipline a toddler”?
Question by ashley nicole: “best way to discipline a toddler”?
my son who is 21mths old ..is very mischiveous..he hit the terrible “2′s just a couple of weeks before i had his brother. He loves messing with everything! My husband and I are moving and we are sure goin to have that place babyproof! But how should i discipline him when i tell him dont mess with that..and he does it again? Im not sure what to do? I tell him “no bubba thats not a toy” and he will leave it alone..then 10mins later he’s messing with it again. I try not to yell but, when im not feeling good or just not in the best mood..it gets the best of me.
please.,some good advice & help!
Best answer:
Answer by Anil
Stop messing with him.
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Tags: Best, Discipline, toddler
May 15th, 2011 at 9:30 am
He needs to be sat in time out. At 21 months he completely understands “if you do that again/if you touch that again, you are sitting in time out”…and FOLLOW THROUGH. If he does it again, he must immediately go to time out. He is perfectly fine at his age to sit in time out for 2 full minutes. When he’s done his time you go over to him, get down on his level, and ASK him what he did wrong. You may to tell him a few times what he did wrong and he has to say sorry to to whoever or about whatever he did. We started out daughter on time out at 16 months and she’s technically 25 months now, we just say 2 but she’s a “new” 2 and she completely respects and understands the threats of time out.
May 15th, 2011 at 10:22 am
a “timeout” since he is almost 2 he has to sit in “timeout” for 2 minutes then explain to him what he did is wrong each time and always end with i love you
May 15th, 2011 at 10:38 am
First of all, the best thing you can do is thoroughly baby-proof your son’s environment. The more times he hears the word “no”, the less he takes it seriously. So the best thing you can do is put away or block off anything he can’t play with, so you’ll be saying “no” to him a LOT less often.
Second, this is what we do with my 11 month old if he is getting into something he shouldn’t. First, we tell him “no” and pull him away from whatever it is, gently but firmly. If he goes after it again, we pull him away again and say “I said ‘no’. If I have to tell you ‘no’ again, we’re going in the other room/I’m taking it away/whatever.” If he goes after it again, we leave the room or take it away or whatever. It’s working, slowly but surely.
Third, just remember that he is a toddler, and that it is not only normal, but HEALTHY for him to explore his environment and test his boundaries. He is establishing his independence as a person, and part of how he does that is to disobey you and test your patience to see what will happen. This is HEALTHY for him, even if it is frustrating for you. So try not to get too angry at him — look at it as a sign that your son is normal and healthy!
May 15th, 2011 at 10:41 am
get down to his level and talk to him. don’t baby proof your home baby proof you child.
take everything away from them, tell them how you feel and ask him simple questions to see how he feels
my 3 year old hates when i take his stuff away but it works
you need to explain things to him so that he understands and be firm, smack his hands if you have to let him know who is boss and set him in time out. they say to set kids in time out for the amount of their age.
i hope that helped a lil
May 15th, 2011 at 10:46 am
At two he really isn’t trying to make it personal against you — the memory just isn’t there.
Because you’ve already established “no, that’s not a toy” try working with that. If you can get him to repeat “not a toy” that will help him learn and asking him “where are your toys?” may provide a good distraction.
If, however, he is doing something very dangerous again and again, than physically pick him up with a firm (not scary, not angry) “Away” and remove him to a different location.
May 15th, 2011 at 11:12 am
put him in time out for about 30 minutes and if he keeps on messing with it umm… tell him to stop and put him in time out again… he will eventually learn and if it dont work then start spanking him…
May 15th, 2011 at 11:41 am
If it’s too tempting for him to leave it alone, then you need to make it inaccessible.
He is ‘hard wired’ to explore, so make your house safe for him to explore.
If you have to say “NO” a lot, you haven’t baby-proofed enough.
May 15th, 2011 at 12:35 pm
A good spanking usually makes toddlers second-guess their actions.
May 15th, 2011 at 1:06 pm
First of all for the person who wants to spank a less than two year old that is wrong and in most states illegal. Most state laws your not even allowed to spank a child under the age of 3 and in my opinion not at all. To address the timeout issue I agree that two minutes at a time until he get’s that you mean business. If you have to go Super Nanny style and continue to sit him down if he get’s up then that’s what you have to do. Explain to him why he’s there, he’ll get it. Put him in a spot that is absolutely no fun and get a timer that you set and he see’s that and can hear when his time is up. Do baby proof the less you have to get onto him the better. No parent likes repeating no all day that’s no fun for you or your child. Be patient kids test you but he will learn. Hope this help you